The Accumulation of Good Intentions – How we accidentally outsource work to the very people we’re trying to serve.

Last week I had several frustrating interactions with companies that are relying more heavily on AI. These were businesses I’d had smooth relationships with for years. Unfortunately, getting transferred to a human often wasn’t any more helpful. They seemed to be working from the same script. In the end, I felt like I had worked harder to solve my problem than they had.
Many organizations aren’t simply replacing people with technology—they’re quietly shifting more of the work onto their customers.
None of my issues should have taken more than fifteen minutes. Instead, each consumed nearly an hour with menus, transfers, repeated information, and waiting on hold.
Healthcare has been doing this for years, one small burden at a time. Collectively, those burdens have turned patients into administrators of their own care.
It’s not any single sign that exhausts us. It’s their gradual accumulation.
As we’ve been redesigning our clinic at Unorthodoc and building a nonprofit model that we hope other communities can replicate, I’ve realized that I want to move in the opposite direction.
Whatever you think of Amazon as a company, it has demonstrated what relentless friction reduction looks like. Once you’ve decided what you want, the purchase, shipping, and return process nearly disappears.
I don’t want to borrow their philosophy. I want to borrow their discipline.
In our world, reducing friction isn’t about making it easier to sell. It’s about making it easier to care. Removing needless actions preserves human energy for walking beside the wonderfully complicated people who trust us with their lives.
Here, reducing unnecessary friction becomes an act of respect.
Whenever we’re considering a new policy, form, workflow, or technology, I’d like our first question to be simple:
Whose life gets easier if we do this?
Sometimes the answer will be us. Sometimes it will be our patients. The best solutions serve both. We simply need to be intentional about where we’re placing the burden.
As physicians, we’ve learned to practice DEprescribing. We don’t keep medications simply because they’ve always been there. We ask whether each one still provides more benefit than burden.
Our practices deserve the same discipline. Every layer of complexity should periodically justify its continued existence.
Healthcare is complicated, and some complexity protects patients, physicians, and the practice itself. But every burden should be intentional—and as thoughtfully designed as possible.
Our goal isn’t simple efficiency. Our goal is to make it easier to be in relationship with us.
Direct Primary Care physicians often tolerate being on call for our own patients better than most of our medical colleagues because relationships change the experience. The interruption means something because the person means something. Counterintuitively, that makes caring easier.
Relationships are our infrastructure. They’re the foundation upon which everything else is built.
Modern healthcare has invested enormous energy in optimizing for billing and system efficiency while sidelining its most important resource: relationships.
As we continue refining our own practice—and as others build theirs—I hope we’ll resist the temptation to solve our operational problems by quietly outsourcing them to our patients.
If we keep relationships at the center of every operational decision, I believe we’ll make better choices—for our patients and ourselves.
What decision best protects your relationships?
What unnecessary friction is competing with them?





